Consequences of cheating on your spouse: Now I understand why I had no money
Cheating—whether it’s flirting, lusting, or sex—can be disastrous.
(Just ask Bill Clinton.)
A callous misconception about infidelity is that only the cheater’s spouse, the innocent husband or wife, suffers.
But nothing could be more untrue.
The ramifications of cheating are frightening. Moreover, you need to know that the spiritual realm propels the natural consequences, whether you believe in God or not.
That spark between you and your affair partner…
That really is fire.
When the affair loses excitement, and it will, either you or the affair partner can just walk away. The “other” woman or man has no rights. There’s no “for better or worse,” no “for sickness and in health”—no protection. Nevertheless, after the affair shrivels, you can’t pretend you haven’t broken your marriage covenant.
And what will you have left in your hand when it’s over?
Because the one who plays with fire…
Consequences of cheating on your spouse: a broken marriage covenant, distrust, jeopardized reputation, severed relationships, questioned integrity, scandal, moral issues, sexually transmitted diseases (AIDS + STDs), broken friendships, scarred children, alimony, divorce costs, God’s judgment, demonic influence, and ultimately, supernatural cursing.
The reckoning of an adulterer
Do you remember Job, the upright man in the Bible who lost everything? Satan insisted that if God lowered the hedge of protection around Job, the innocent man would curse God.
As we know, Job remained faithful, despite the monumental losses he endured. However, as his sufferings unfolded, his friends suspected hidden sin caused his doom. Though the biblical hero was “blameless” and didn’t cheat on his wife, Job had this to say about infidelity as he lamented about his situation, crossing off a list of things he hadn’t done:
“Adultery is a fire that consumeth to destruction and would root out all mine increase.” Job 31-12
Do you believe Job? I do. He had wisdom that supernatural ramifications, cursing, would hit his life if he cheated on his spouse.
Today, the consequences of adultery still befall us.
When you have an affair, you turn off prosperity in your life. Sexual sin directly affects your bank balance. The reason why is, spiritual repercussions affect the natural world. And consequences unfold when you come against God’s word.
“A man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mark 10:7-9
“What God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Adultery: delightful, daring, and deadly
What does God say will happen to you if you commit adultery?
If a spouse keeps their infidelity a secret, the devastating aftermath of adultery will still manifest and ravage the lives of the adulterers because the Bible promises the sexually immoral will be judged.
We live in pre-apocalyptic times, and the events in the book of Revelation unravel more each day. So if the last book of the Bible is unfolding, then what God has written about the adulterer’s punishment will indeed occur in this life. And the next.
“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” Hebrews 13:4
Blessings in marriage become curses outside of marriage
And hidden sin will not stop the inescapable spiritual consequences of cheating. In short, adultery means you don’t put God first. If you did, you would love your spouse, not cover them in violence.
Not surprisingly, anything that exists outside of God’s ways becomes evil. And this is why satan tempts you: he gets a foothold into your life when you sin.
“He who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it destroys himself.” Romans 7:2-3
Your decisions affect your kids
Adultery breaks up families and affects a child’s entire life—adolescence and adulthood.
First, your children will not trust you anymore when they find out about the affair. Kids watch and learn from their parents, and honoring commitments means you don’t break a covenant. If you’ve lied to them about where you’ve been going, what else have you lied about? Adultery will cause your children to grow fearful. How could you hurt the mother/father they love? Pain, trauma, and trust issues can affect a child’s school life, their choice of friends, the type of girlfriend/boyfriend they choose, and even when they become sexually active. If they don’t feel loved at home, they’ll need to find love somewhere else.
Second, adultery will affect your children’s kids, as they’ll remember what their one parent did to the other. According to statistics, 55% of children from adulterous parents will also cheat on their spouses when they are adults. In fact, I believe a parent’s infidelity hurts their kids the most. But let’s not forget about the affair partner who has also been compromised.
Third, cheating cannot be compartmentalized. The deception will not just burn through your marriage; cheating weighs down your entire life. You will lie to friends, family, colleagues, or anyone you need to.
Supernatural consequences hit the affair partner
If a man or woman intrudes on a marriage, usually something terrible happens to them. I heard of a case where a man got hit by a car after persistently pursuing a married woman. I’ve also heard of cars being stolen or two or three freak accidents happening to an affair partner in one day.
If a married person commits adultery, they compromise the life of the affair partner. Angels enforce the blessing, and demons, the curse.
The Bible teaches that adultery is deceiving:
‘“Stolen water is sweet; food eaten in secret is delicious!” But little do they know that the dead are there, that her guests are deep in the realm of the dead.” Proverbs 9:16-18
David had a long continuous road of consequences
David killed Uriah to hide Bathsheba’s pregnancy, but he didn’t go to jail. Instead, under the old testament law, David had to pay four-fold restitution for his sin. Cheating is seductive, and the consequences of adultery poisoned David’s entire family. This is what God said to him about his sin:
“From this time on, your family will live by the sword because you have despised me by taking Uriah’s wife to be your own. This is what the LORD says: ‘Because of what you have done, I will cause your own household to rebel against you. I will give your wives to another man before your very eyes, and he will go to bed with them in public view. You did it secretly, but I will make this happen to you openly in the sight of all Israel.’” 2 Samuel 10:12
“For adultery is a heinous and lustful crime; Moreover, it would be a sin punishable by the judges.” Job 31:11
7 Delusions of Cheating
- “This isn’t technically adultery; I’m not cheating.”
- “My spouse doesn’t need to know.”
- “This relationship won’t compromise my family or me.”
- “[Affair partner] loves me.”
- “I must wait and see how I feel about [affair partner]. In the meantime, we aren’t hurting anyone.”
- “My ‘new love’ won’t tell anybody.”
- “The relationship won’t affect other areas of my life.”
A step-by-step roadmap to coming clean:
- Set a date to end the cheating relationship. Make a clean break from the person on [insert date], remembering that this person deserves a man or woman who loves them and only them—and that’s not you.
- Tell your spouse the whole truth. Don’t base your new fidelity on a cracked foundation.
- Your affair partner may reach out to you around the 30-day mark of no contact but refrain from responding.
- Do not discredit your affair partner in fear that they may tell people about the infidelity. They’re only telling the truth.
- Take responsibility when the affair becomes public. Remember: God is watching.
The bottom line?
Monotony can set in after a few years of marriage—but you made a vow, a promise to remain faithful to your covenant partner.
According to Christian YouTuber Karen Sera, Jesus gave her a dream about the seriousness of adultery.
In the dream, God was gathering people for judgment, and Karen saw a man who used to be a Christian. She approached him and said: “You are about to face God’s judgment, and you have sinned.”
Despite what Karen disclosed to the man, he grinned like a Cheshire cat and told her he’s certain everything will go fine at his judgment. So Karen reminded him that he had committed adultery while he was married, with a woman who was also married. She immediately understood that the man’s punishment for double adultery would be more severe. Yet he was blinded and didn’t believe he would be punished for his sin.
The following day, Karen asked the Lord why the man’s punishment would be so terrible. She believes she received this answer from Jesus:
“It isn’t only about the sin. A person has to answer to God for each and every person they wounded during their lifetime. A person who committed adultery with a married person has both wounded their own spouse and the spouse of that other person. Their punishment will be double.”
Instead of hammering you with your mistake, let me rather lay out proof that if you seek forgiveness for cheating, God will forgive your sin:
“In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace.” Jeremiah 3:8
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.” 1 Corinthians 6:18
“There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” Jeremiah 13:27
Today, people are desensitized to sin, especially infidelity. But if you don’t repent for cheating on your spouse, you’ll be held accountable for the hurt you’ve caused everyone you’ve wounded as a result of cheating, including the affair partner whose life has been compromised.
Unlike the disillusioned man in Karen’s dream, will you be transparent with your spouse and ask God for forgiveness?
Adultery may cost you in this life, but it doesn’t need to cost you in the next.